What am I? Another version of Hester Prynne??
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery” Matthew 5:32
If this is the case, then I need to leave my current relationship and I can never enter into another one, again, for the rest of my life. If I do, any potential husbands would become an adulterers??? This doesn’t seem fair to me.
I’m so confused. This makes me sad. All of this has came about because I joined a “Christian” forum. Someone who CLAIMED to be a minister, read my biography and told me that I was “living in sin and was little more than a Jezebel”. Wth???
Yes, I was married. Twice, in fact. Once for about 30 days and the second time for almost 9 years. I made poor choices because I was a young, scared, single-mom. Oh, and stupid…very stupid. I didn’t leave either of them because of their unfaithfulness…..I did it because I made the wrong choices in mates and realized it after the fact. Actually….as for the first marriage, the truth is that I knew it when I said “I Do”. It was like a rolling stone that just got away from me. He asked, I said yes, and before I knew it…..It had turned into this big deal and I didn’t have the balls to get out of it…..I just let it happen. (Sorry for that, Rick). The second marriage took a little longer. After the first year, I wondered if I made the right choice….by year five…I KNEW I’d made the wrong choice, but I was stuck. Completely.
My current sweetie says that he will only marry ONCE. With that being said….according to this scripture, if he marries me, he too becomes an adulterer. That doesn’t seem fair to him. He’s a wonderful person who happened to fall in love with me….why should he be given such a title for simply following his heart????
Does this mean that I’ve had my chance at a happy marriage and because I was so young and stupid with my choices in men, I am now not worthy of a loving husband, EVER?
Because my sweetie says that he will only marry once and the fact that he takes The Bible to heart, I’m wondering if he ever feels that by being with me, living in sin and all…..he needs to keep his options open for a more christian-like woman? After all, as of now, he’s not an adulterer, he’s merely a fornicator (which is a lesser offense in The Bible, from what I can tell). Apparently he has to marry my adulterous butt in order to be an adulterer himself.
But me?? Well, I guess I have a giant, albeit invisible, “A” on my chest. I received it when I divorced my first husband…..sorry to the 2nd husband. I guess that I doomed you to hell without even knowing it?!?!
Sigh.
UPDATE!
This was REALLY bothering me…..so I had to dig deeper and get some advice. This is what I found. Apparently, I CAN marry again and yes, my husband would become an adulterer because of marrying me. HOWEVER….as long as we ask for forgiveness, we will be forgiven. OKAY. Good. lol
Personally though, after MUCH soul searching, I’ve decided that God would NEVER send me to hell for divorcing and re-marrying…..Jesus died for my sins and my God is a forgiving God. I don’t even know why I let that crazy preacher on the forum upset me in the first place. I will never again to go a Christian forum for help with anything AGAIN. Obviously they are full of nutjobs and trolls. I have a beautiful life and it’s all because of my faith in the Lord Jesus Christ.
